i no my son and i don't think hes got the patience or determination and dedication to become anything
Glen, can I just say that this is the saddest thing I have read in a long time. Of course your son will become something, unless you prevent him from doing so. The person I respected most in the whole world was my father and he set amazingly high standards of effort and behaviour to me (he's just turned 68 and despite retiring from the job in the company that he worked for and helped run since he was 17 years old, he now has two jobs. Both of which earn more than me!). If I have seen that my father had written something like that about me on an internet forum I would be devastated. I'm certain that your son would be the same. Rather than putting him down, perhaps you should be trying to build him up and help him to achieve something in his life. You say that you are disabled and unable to get around easily - does that also mean that you are unable to work? (I am in no way implying that this is your fault - indeed it is a tragedy). If that is so, in my opinion you should be spending your time looking after your sons and pushing them to be the best that they can be. They are your responsibility, you created them after all! Even if your son is not academically gifted (and lets face it, many people are not!) he will have skills that can be developped if you help and guide him along the way. I always tell my pupils who are not as academically able as other that there can only ever be one architect to deign a house, but there can be lots of builders involved (I know that this isn't strictly true, but we're talking about dealing with 14-15 year olds here!)
Build your sons up, don't knock them down because it could affect them forever.
BB
